This is where I share my thoughts as I’m going through (as they say in Libby’s favorite musical Hamilton) the unimaginable.
five things you should never say to a grieving parent
My dog died, and I feel guilty (discussing cumulative grief)
What happens when grief events pile up on one another? When something else happens before you have the chance to process the previous loss?
Who in the Hell Am I Now that my Child has Died?
Back to School Sucks When You’ve Lost a Child
six month funk
The Ugly side of grief
What is grief truly like, beyond the inspirational quotes and platitudes? In this post I get real about the times that grief gets ugly. This post contains some graphic pictures and descriptions that might be triggering for some readers.
hopeful and realistic grieving
grief and guilt
Being a Nerd is Helpful When Grieving
Different personalities grieve in different ways. In this post, I discuss how learning about grief (being a nerd) has helped me through the grieving process.
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taking grief on vacation
Taking our first vacation as a family after the loss of a child tested my resilience and showed me that I’m still in the giant grip of grief.
grief is like the ocean
When Libby first died, and I started scouring grief websites and books and podcasts and anything I could find searching for a lifeline — ANYTHING to help me survive, or to let me know that other people had survived losing a child.
happy birthday
holidays deflated
reinventing a family
After a child dies, the entire vibe of a family shifts. Join me as I discuss navigating new family dynamics and how the book “Grief is a Dancer” by Alisa Bair forced me to think about my remaining kids even as I wallow in grief.
shift the statistics
When it comes to surviving the death of a child, the statistics are terrifying. Are they a life sentence, or can we do something as grieving parents to help ourselves? How does resilience play into grief?
Dear Grieving Mother…
Here is my love letter to all grieving moms out there. I see you. I hear you. I feel your pain. We will all grieve differently, but we are part of a club that no one ever wants to join, and we can survive this.
Two months
Two months have passed since my daughter died. How am I doing? Terribly, thanks for asking. Grief is hard, but grieving the loss of a child is a beast of another nature.
bad things…good people
I’ve always tried to be a good person. So why does everyone that I love keep dying? Am I cursed? Join me as I ruminate about how bad things happen to good people, and how losing a child is the pinnacle of grief.
Empathy overload
It’s an amazing feeling having so many people sharing their photographs, videos, thoughts, prayers, and love after our child has died. However, for an empathetic person, sometimes it can be overwhelming to have constant reminders of our loss.
It’s the big things, too…
Handing the big events after the loss of a child can be overwhelming and exhausting. Bereaved parents need to do whatever is needed to get through.